PUTTING THE FOCUS ON POSITIVE CHANGE
The theme of Change continues and if there’s ever a season for change, it’s Spring! I mention Spring in my April newsletter, so if you’re not signed up to receive this once a month info-packed missive, be sure to do so now. Sign up here. I’ll be sure to get the newsletter out to you as soon as possible. (Hint — don’t miss out on the special freebie offered in this issue — it’s only available for a short time!)
When it comes to change, do you go for the quickie or one that’s long and drawn out? How did you handle this question as a kid? Did you rip off the Band-aid lickety-split or slowly filet it back, pulling off one arm hair at a time?
That says a lot about you right there. We learn behaviors early on that are intended to protect us for the rest of our lives. We learn how to act slowly (with extreme caution and planning) and how to act decisively (with confidence and finality).
As adults, the trouble is in knowing which action is called for.
One clue to this mystery is taking a look at the end result. In the instance of the Band-aid, experience tells you that the boo boo will be OK once the Band-aid is removed. That experience would give you the incentive to rip it off quickly.
Think about the changes you’re facing right now. Do you know the end result? Most of us don’t. So, here’s my point. We don’t know what’s necessarily in store, but we do know what we want to have happen. So why not focus on that?
That’s the whole deal — FOCUS.
Here’s my formula:
+ DESIRED END RESULT
= SWIFT AND DECISIVE ACTION
Take a look at your desired outcome (job change, weight change, behavior change, etc.) and imagine, pray, and/or meditate on what needs to happen to make that change. Focus on the details of how that change happens. Make lists, journal, create schedules – whatever you need to do.
Focus on yourself completing a big project and getting a raise or promotion. Focus on buying healthier foods, making tasty and nutrition meals, and achieving your weight management goals. Focus on being more patient with others, on mending strained relationships, on being more patient and kind to yourself. Focus on your inner thoughts and notice their negative or positive nature. YOU get to choose what to think!
If you’d like to learn more about how change can help you to heal, check out my book, FibroWHYalgia. In it, I chronicle my own changes as I learned about the causes of chronic illness (fibromyalgia, arthritis, diabetes, lupus, etc.). I detail how I eventually made change happen. And the result? I now live a nearly pain-free life and consider fibromyalgia to be a blessing rather than a burden.
Tell me what you think! What”s your focus this week? You CAN make positive changes happen!