The topic came up the other day about what a person has to give up when he/she is diagnosed with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, lupus, or other chronic illness. Do you think about that?
What have you given up? What activities you can no longer do? What items can you no longer wear? Maybe you even dwell on the person you once were, but can no longer be?
Just like the glass half empty or half full, it’s all about perspective. Yes, chronic illness guides us to shift our priorities (that’s reframing it nicely!). We have to make lifestyle changes, but we get to CHOOSE those changes.
It takes time to discover what helps us to heal. It takes even more time to accept the findings and put them into practice. Finding what works for you is moving forward through your discoveries. Here’s a mini assessment of how you may move through the phases of discovery.
Giving UP is being stuck – rocking back and forth in frustration.
Giving IN is resignation – staying just where you are, not backward, but not forward either.
Giving BACK comes from a place of acceptance. Accepting who you are, what you’ve learned, and helping others do the same.
This topic needs further development; I’d love to hear what you think. What things have you given up? What lessons have you learned from chronic illness?