Taking a look at * Fibromyalgia Awareness month brings to mind how many ways there are to start the healing process. Recently, however, I had a spirited and interesting conversation with someone about their health and how NOT to heal. Why would anyone do that? You may be surprised.
Sometimes, people feel threatened by change. Perhaps they’ve worked very hard to create the delicate balance of getting help they need and simply managing their symptoms. This has nothing to do with intentionally NOT wanting to heal. It’s just a matter of feeling that anything that threatens the status quo is dangerous.
Others feel that they’ve become the “expert” in their own healing process. Of course, this is a GOOD thing. It’s actually a wonderful thing. That is, it’s a great thing unless they feel they ALREADY know everything they need to and there’s nothing more to learn. In some cases, this “expert status” can be used as a shield to keep new information out rather than acting as an open door to possibilities.
While no one would consciously CHOOSE to stay stuck, that’s the point. It’s not a conscious choice. Sometimes behaviors exist sort of between a conscious thought and a subconscious thought. The behaviors are stuck, therefore, between a rock and hard place.
These “stuck” thoughts can
keep you in a state of inertia.
As promised, here’s a few sure-fire ways to NOT HEAL (or even improve) anytime soon:
1) Make sure that you talk more than you listen. There’s no better way to shut out new ideas than to not even hear them in the first place.
2) Make sure that you isolate yourself from others and keep company with your own thoughts. Getting feedback from others can influence your choices, so it’s far better to keep your thoughts to yourself.
3) Be sure to listen to all new ideas only long enough to form a counter-attack. That way, you can quickly express why it won’t (or hasn’t) work(ed) for you.
This list, of course, is provided
to provoke higher thinking.
It’s meant to stir up a conversation on what may or may not be holding you back from achieving your healing desires. What’s the common denominator in all of these examples?
Whether we’re able to see the surface matter or not, underneath it all, we’re usually afraid. We’re afraid of change. We’re afraid of our own perceptions of failure (yet again!). We’re afraid of showing others that we don’t know everything and we don’t “have it all together.”
Can you think of other fears that may be in play? Do you ever feel between a rock and hard place? Join in the conversation and share below!
* Want to know more about awareness and the month of May? Check out this Fibromyalgia Awareness Day article I’ve written for ProHealth.com to learn more.
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