ARE YOU IGNORING ONE SURPRISING SOURCE OF CHRONIC PAIN?
When I see clients, ONE issue they have in common, is an emotion that 98% of them would deny at the get-go. When I ask if they feel angry about anything, they say, “Nah, no, nope – that doesn’t sound like me at all. My fibromyalgia (or health challenge) chronic pain comes from X, Y, or Z.”
We all have an idea of where our pain comes from, and for the most part, we’re right. Pain stems from a number of things including injuries, infections, food sensitivities, sugar consumption, toxins, and various other physical issues that lead to leaky gut, cognitive dysfunction, immune system impact, fatigue, hormone and thyroid dysregulation, and more.
But few talk about the emotional side of things. Sure, many of us recognize that traumas (childhood, especially) have a lasting impact on our lives. But many of us ignore that emotional traumas linger. Many fears and anxieties multiply around themes such as safety, security, personal boundaries, being valued and validated, etc. But DO we really feel angry?
You tell me. If at any time in the past, you felt unsafe in your environment – a natural response would be anger and frustration. If you felt isolated or ignored, you’d likely feel hurt, saddened, and yes, angered. If you were made to feel unworthy or not valued for your own ideas and thoughts, you’d feel hopeless, helpless, and … angry. Were you lead by the authorities you trusted to believe it was okay to be angry? The most common answer I hear to this question is no.
Anger is one emotion that many of us believe
we’re “not supposed” to feel.
Here’s a litmus test. Have you ever had a simple scenario such as a delay in the line at the grocery store or a traffic jam cause you to blow your stack? Or at the least, become impatient and ticked off? If so, it’s likely that other issues of unresolved anger are burbling to the surface. One-time outbursts are not the issue here. It’s the seething consistency to repressed anger that becomes an issue.
Remember that we’re all different. Some may react to anger with an outburst or tirade. Others have a veneer and surface so placid there’s not a hint of the anger that lies beneath. It’s important to note that they’re both destructive to the healthy healing plans you have for today.
It takes guidance, time, patience, self-discovery, and a bit of open-mindedness to uncover your anger. First, there must be an inner inquisitiveness to explore the topic. Consider, when do I feel angry now? When did I feel angry in the past?
Feeling angry isn’t bad. It’s just one of many emotions. In fact, when it’s bottled, suppressed, denied, or ignored, anger can really fester into some nasty physical symptoms. One result of this festering? Pain.
Here’s an important key to reviewing your own history with the emotion, anger. Take the “should” and “judgment” factors out of it. Allow yourself to explore these ideas without any inner judgment telling you how you “should” feel. And, if your anger includes others, don’t discount your own feelings by saying that you didn’t have a right to feel that way because the other party’s intentions were good. That may very well be the case, but it’s not the point at this moment.
For this exploration stay out of other people’s heads and stay in your own. You have a right to your own feelings and to take a look at them – objectively and without judgment.
There are many practices and modalities to help with this self-discovery that I don’t have the time to go into here. But the beginning steps can be done on your own.
First, recognize your anger. Tell yourself it’s okay to feel that way. Once you can do that, you’re well on your way to cutting the ties to the situations that created the anger and are keeping you stuck. Seeking additional guidance can be particularly helpful. A counselor or health coach can help you to be extremely productive and see things in ways that you simply cannot. NONE of us find it easy to see our own “stuff.” The guidance of an objective, trained party can help you along this discovery process much faster and more efficiently.
It’s time to let go. Here are a few indications that will let you know if you’re on the right track: feelings of peace, hope, lightness, and, of course … less pain.
Have you ever been angry, but told yourself that you had no right to feel that way? Please share below!
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