NO, I WON’T DO IT!
I absolutely love working with clients. I’m passionate about helping them to lead healthier, happier, and more fulfilled lives. Our work together includes a wonderful exploration process where I’m privileged to delve into their “wants,” their “needs,” and especially – their “then, why haven’t you got that already?” beliefs.
Together, we create a plan that’s workable, doable, and accountable. But here’s one thing I won’t do.
I won’t give them what they ask for the most!
Invariably, during the discovery process of working with new clients, I’ll hear something similar to this: “I just want to be who I was before _____________ (fill in the blank with fibromyalgia, arthritis, Lyme disease, various autoimmune conditions, diabetes, cancer, etc.).
That’s just crazy talk! Do they really want to go back to being the VERY SAME person who ran herself/himself ragged and then got sick?
Here’s where that request goes awry. If I were to magically re-instate my clients to exactly who they were before they became ill, I’d be placing them at the starting gate to sickness. The co-factors that created the illness in the first place would still exist. Their worries, concerns, anxieties, and toxic thoughts would still exist. Their nutritional deficiencies and poor self-care habits would still exist. You get the picture.
It would just be a matter of time before something happened to start the whole ball of chronic illness rolling again. And, who wants that?
Instead, I respond, “Let’s NOT get you back to who you were before, but rather …
Let’s get you to a new and improved version of you – a YOU-2.0!
So, how long does that take? It typically takes time to get sick and it takes time to get well. I can only say (with personal experience) that the intentional climb to wellness is far more worthwhile than the out-of-control fall to chronic illness.
After I make this point in a session, it gets very quiet in my office. Like crickets chirping in the background quiet. But, soon enough, I can see the dawn of understanding spread over their faces. And, that’s my favorite part. That’s when healing truly begins!
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